Divorce mediation: available at your home or at one of our locations

Mediation Haarlem

Mediation supports the process of breaking up as best as possible. This is proven: both the children and the (former) partners come out of this better. Divorce brings chaos. That’s why Praktijk de Liefde has the expertise to completely unburden you and take care of everything.

Are you getting divorced and have no idea where to start with all the formal stuff? Whether you really thought of everything? And do you worry about how to best arrange everything for the children? Are you residing in Haarlem? Then our mediator will be happy to help you!

What is mediation?

Mediation involves the following issues, among others:

– Power distribution
– Retirement
– Alimony
– Divorce covenant including all agreements regarding home acquisition or sale of the house and distribution of funds and common property
– Parenting plan
– Filing petition court

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What do we regulate in a divorce?

After 8 weeks, documents are filed with the court. For this, we pay court fees. It may take two to three months to process. Next comes an order from the court. It will be recorded in the records of civil status at the municipality after the lawyer passes it on. Only when this is done will we release you. There are no waiting lists, you can still come this week for the no-obligation introduction.

What is the purpose of mediation in Haarlem?

With mediation, you invest directly in your current and future relationship with your ex-partner and parenthood. And that gives less tension, more peace and more happiness. In doing so, you consider the risks and thus save on unforeseen additional (future) costs. Mediation at Practice Love provides structure and overview, resulting in space for dialogue and being able to process emotions. We do this with a completely unburdening approach, where everything is taken care of within a few sessions. The most important thing is that you can move on without unnecessary additional stress, chaos and worry.

What do we do during mediation in Haarlem?

The mediator in Haarlem is an independent and impartial third party who will work with you to ensure a proper divorce settlement. In doing so, the mediator looks after the interests of both partners and any children. This is in contrast to a divorce lawyer, who only represents the interests of one party. Our goal is for you to come out of the divorce financially and emotionally fit. We do not see divorce as a competition, but as a form of cooperation where the outcome is good for both partners. So that you separate from each other and face the future together in good parenting.

How does our mediator work in Haarlem?

Our mediator in Haarlem Guide you step by step throughout the mediation process. This involves taking all legal and formal matters off your hands, so that you can finally focus on the emotional settlement of the divorce.
This approach creates peace, overview and space to process the divorce better and without unnecessary additional worry and stress. For both partners and the child. A better relationship with the ex-partner results in better mental health for both partners and any children. We offer a hassle-free effective process so you can get out faster, more peacefully and without additional worries or unforeseen costs. The more calm and relaxed the divorce is, the more future there is for good parenting. We take you by the hand through the divorce process. It takes a few conversations to map everything out. All the legal and administrative hassles are taken out of your hands. We then go to work behind the scenes to work everything out and complete it legally. That way, you can start a new path, without worries, and leave a turbulent period behind you.

Melissa Molenschot, mediator at Praktijk de Liefde Haarlem

Before you make an appointment, we always recommend a free, no-obligation meeting to see if there is a click. This click is important because you will share many personal and financial issues with the mediator.

Frequently asked questions about mediation in Haarlem

The goal of mediation is to come out of the divorce financially, emotionally and fitfully. That you can remain in control, within reason and legal obligations. In doing so, we keep the pace you like.

Mediation provides space for alignment and dialogue. This may be different from settling with a lawyer. With us, you will find a middle ground together. We do not see divorce as a competition, but as a form of cooperation where the outcome is good for both partners. So that you separate from each other and face the future together in good parenting.

A divorce lawyer is not a mediator, but represents the interests of one of the partners during the divorce process. Communication between ex-partners is between both lawyers, partners do not see or speak to each other. This construction works well when, for example, there is a lot of resentment and the conversation really fails.

A mediator represents both interests, of both parties. The mediator’s work consists of two parts: crystallizing and bringing together the concerns and needs of both partners, as well as the legal formal settlement.

The mediator also handles the formal side of the divorce. Such as wealth distribution based on the marital regime, but then also pension distribution. Next, the mediator makes an alimony calculation of both spousal and child support. All this will be in a covenant, after which the parenting plan will be drawn up (if there are children).

Because Melissa has a legal background, she will help you settle the business side, such as the alimony calculation. But also in drafting a divorce covenant and (new) parenting plan. Or very practically, the arrangements you have to make for vacations. All in a way that both of you can support and feel positive about.

Often partners think less carefully about the future. For example, pensions need to be divided, or there is still a survivor’s pension. What do we do with that? Or ex-partners think: the parenting plan is just for now. But when children enter high school, the regular division of care changes. Then the plan must be modified. In principle, parents can arrange this among themselves. Nibud has handy practical tips for this.

We usually start with a no-obligation introduction to feel the space to ask questions, and to see if there is that all-important “click” with the therapist. We strive to ensure that you can meet with one of our mediators within 1 week.

With several locations throughout the Netherlands, you can always visit Praktijk de Liefde, including Amsterdam, Rotterdam, Utrecht, Nijmegen, Tilburg, Eindhoven, Haarlem, The Hague and even Ibiza!

Our mediators will guide you step by step throughout the mediation process, which looks broadly as follows: