Janneke Pols, Relationship Therapist in Haarlem

A healthy relationship feels like a team where you understand and support each other. But sometimes, you lose that connection, misunderstandings build up, or you get stuck in recurring patterns. In my work as a relationship therapist, I help people reconnect and grow together.

Connection happens through your head, your heart, and your body. And language plays a vital role in that. I see myself as a kind of translator – someone who helps people learn to speak a different, more connecting language. A language in which thoughts, feelings, and needs are acknowledged without judgment or blame. Whether it’s your partner, a family member, or a colleague: I offer a safe space where we explore together how you can reconnect. The moments when people truly see and hear each other again give me great satisfaction. Relationship therapy brings together everything I believe in: awareness, growth, communication, and connection. 

Background

After working for nearly twenty-five years in my own private practice as an independent psychologist, and now that my three daughters have left the nest, I’ve moved to Haarlem. I’ve entered a new phase in my life, dedicating myself entirely to relationship therapy – the work that brings me the most fulfillment. I’m trained as a clinical psychologist and have specialized in Schema Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

"Relationship therapy brings together everything I believe in: awareness, growth, communication, and creating connection."