What questions do our therapists get?

So when do you take the step to couples therapy? What issues can it help you with? Well of course you make your own choices about that. But perhaps it also helps to know what questions we hear. Here you will find them listed.

Family Balance

Many questions are about family balance. When am I partner, and when am I mom or dad? Or is it an interplay and we simply have it to combine? And how? How do we bring back ‘desire’? To improve the relationship, couples engage in therapy to find the basis of the relationship. The “black box” where loving once started it all.

Infidelity

How do we deal with infidelity? Can we continue if one of us has had an affair? Can we get out of that, and what will it take?

Arguing

Why do we keep ending up in conflict with each other? In couples therapy, we unravel the background of the conflicts, and how to scrape out of them together.

The I-relationship

But we also get questions about the I-relationship. How do I balance time for myself and time for the partnership? With the attention to take care of yourself, you can better meet the other family roles as well.

Open relationship

Or questions about the open relationship. “We would like to have an open relationship, but how do we do that in a careful way? How do we keep the basics safe in that?” In therapy, we look at what conditions are important in this regard. How do you deal with that together?

Smartphone

Or feeling lonely in the relationship because of your partner’s smartphone use. How can you make good agreements about that? What role do you give online communication and media in relationship and (family) life?

Improve relationships

Perhaps you recognize these questions. It is valuable to “check in” with each other about this from time to time. Sort of like an MOT. Maintaining (or improving) your relationship by looking at what topics do chafe. A therapist can be a moderator in this process and bring clarity to the dialogue. This is often how new insights and solutions emerge. Share your story, we are happy to listen.

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