Little appetite for sex: can it be hard?

Already much discussed and often commented on; Lize Korpershoek’s documentary late last year about little appetite for sex. In “My sex is broken,” Lize explores why it is that she feels no need for sex. How valuable that she addresses this topic and makes it visible. In her documentary, she openly and soberly discusses what both women and men can struggle with.

Because it’s real and plays out with everyone at times, having less or no desire for sex. For example, through the ordinary waves of life, busy jobs, a baby, two kids.

Interesting and recognizable is the “polyphony” on this issue. What thoughts are at play and how to deal with them?

We also see these double thoughts in the documentary. The desire that sex be like in the movies, namely easy, steaming and exciting. But also, “right so I can’t do that. This double causes sadness and doubt. ‘Am I normal or is there something wrong with me? I want my own voice to be heard, to be true to myself, but at the same time I want to comply with my partner’s voice.’

Can it be difficult?

Lize explores the background of her problem, examines body, mind and lingerie. It ultimately brings her closer to what she does like. But apart from all the possible solutions, let’s ask other questions. Namely, can it be difficult? Is it allowed, little appetite for sex? Can we accept that it is difficult but that that is okay? Can we endure this and still be together? Is it allowed to exist in the relationship?

Couples thus find space for inquiry: what do I want? What do I like in relation to my partner? How do we deal with touch and how were we shaped in this in the past? In this experiencing together lies the connection to each other. Are you curious about Lize’s documentary? You can watch the docu here. And can we help you with doubts or questions or sexuality? Practice Love is happy to think with you.

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