Relaxation is gold, in relationship between ex-partners

More and more, people seek us out to talk about their ex-life. Sometimes they come back together with their ex one more time to go through the story in order to understand each other better. So what made the relationship fail? And how can we continue to communicate for the good of the children?

Parenting after divorce

When parents divorce, it always has an impact on children’s feelings. Therefore, it is important for parents to remain a team together. So that children feel that their parents are connected, even if that is no longer the case at the partner level. If a form of relaxation can remain in that contact, it is golden. Divorce is obviously painful for children, but at the same time it is healing and also comforting if the connection between parents can last. With the accompanying heat.

It is also important to maintain some structure. For example, if the child used to go to Grandma every Thursday afternoon, then it is important that in/after the separation, the child still continues to go to Grandma on that day. That the structures, routines and rituals continue, because that gives tremendous support. Regarding the emotional relationship, it remains very important that ex-partners continue to talk to each other to keep the connection going.

And the rest of the system?

Divorce also affects the rest of the system of ex-partners. On the parents of both partners, and if there are children, then also on the role of grandparents. This system also needs a new balance. How will the ex-partner’s contact with the in-laws be? How do we deal with each other in this? Continuing to talk about this is important to establishing a new routine. Because that gives grip and support!

Parenting after divorce: do you have questions about this and would you like to work with us on your own situation ? Then get in touch.

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