Sex and eroticism to get to our core

Cliché or not, eroticism is an infinite concept and is actually separate from sex. Eroticism is your own making and is a way to entice not only your partner but especially yourself into deeper intimacy. Just the way you like it.

The arrow of Eros gives us the opportunity to be “playful. To increase connection when you’re together or apart for a while or when you’re very focused on yourself due to a busy head.

The meaning of sex for you

The erotic does start from sex and how we look at it. How we do it ourselves but also how society looks at sex, the social expectations around sex. For example, we are often used to seeing sex as purely physical, as performance. But you can also look further. What is the meaning of sex and love? Would you like this meaning to be broader, more meaningful?

Once we think about this, as eroticism unfolds in your mind, there are sometimes jammers that get in the way of desire. We don’t make sense, are trapped in thoughts or assume fixed patterns. Often created by views from the environment, our upbringing, worldviews and how we ourselves are baked, our character.

Creating new routines

It is precisely outside the established patterns and frameworks that there is more to discover. This may feel vulnerable or risky because you are allowing the new. You shift the focus from the physical, with orgasm as the end goal, to the total experience you have together. It’s already in the little things. A gesture or a look at each other, without words, without talking. Simply, the connection that only you have.

Exploring that eroticism allows you to get closer to your core. Your desire contains a deeper layer and goes back, for example, to past experiences, to certain beliefs. The way you look at sex and judge it, where do those images come from? Is it possible to understand this, to understand yourself?

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